Admittedly, I have been avoiding writing every wedding related item down on my blog these days, because I am ashamed to leave any trace of evidences that I am gradually becoming a bridezilla.
There are various definitions for bridezilla:
1. (a neologistic portmanteau of bride and Godzilla) is a difficult, unpleasant, perfectionist bride http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bridezilla_(term)
2. (usually humorous) A woman who, in the course of planning her wedding, exercises or attempts to exercise an high degree of control over all or many minor details of the ceremony and reception. (http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/bridezilla)
3. Today’s Bridezilla is continually redefining herself as a confident woman who knows what she wants and goes after it. If something goes wrong she doesn’t break into a million pieces and revert to toddler-hood, she simply finds the next best route to getting back on track. Bridezillas of today are strong, intelligent women who are not only well-versed in the arts of fashion, beauty and pop culture, but they also have a clear image of who they are and how their wedding will reflect themselves and their brand new husband. (http://www.bridezilla.com/bridezilla-defined)
While I am hoping to be the bridezilla in definition 3, somehow definition 1 and 2 caught me unguarded. Unlike what definition 2 describes, being a bridezilla is really not that humorous for me or people around me.
So how did I discover my internal bridezilla? There were a few things that frustrated me a little:
1. pre-wedding/engagement photo: pre-wedding photo session is a must for every bride from Taiwan. But unfortunately it's not something super popular in Canada. There are a few asian bridal shop or asian photographers provide such services, but they are rather pricy and quality is not as comparable to Taiwain. Since we don't have the time/money allowance to make an extra trip to Taiwan, we have given up on the idea of getting pre-wedding photo done. I was a little disappointed, but I have been telling myself we will have awesome photo on the wedding day. Also, I managed to interest Bear in getting engagment photo done. We ended up doing an engagement photo session in the snow on a mountain that's where we play and go on advantures together. That seems lot more meaningful to us.
2. makeup and hair trial: having a caucasian makeup artist is something that scares most of us Asians. Asians tend to have narrower eyes. Caucasion has deeper eye sockets, higher cheekbones. These different facial features require very different makeup technics. So I have been told a lot, the makeup artist in Dubrovnik would probably ended up doing badly with my makeup. I have been really worried. I ended up doing a makeup trial locally with an asian makeup artist and took some pictures, hoping to show the artist in Dubrovnik these pictures to help him get an idea of the type of makeup I like. I had the makeup trial last weekend, I wasn't super impressed with the results, it was not bad, but wasn't super. The solution is to do another makeup trial when I arrive in Dubrovnik. I will not suggested anything to the artist in Dubrovnik first. If it turns out to be horrible then I will show him the pictures of my trial here, and ask him to try to do the same. If it turns out to be better, then that's perfect.
3. Money and Time: it seems we are always short on time. Also I only have 3-week vacation per calendar year. I am a little frustrated that I won't have any vacation until September. As for money, after purchasing my mom's plane ticket to Dubrovnik, it surely hurt my wallet a bit. Now, I am just looking for cheaper accommodation for her, hopefully I can save some money on that one.
Luckily, I seem to resolved all the these frustration at the end with (im)perfect solutions. It's crazy, but when I read other bride's frustration online, it gives me the relief that I am not the only potential bridezilla :P
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